Give Yourself A Break by Kim Fredrickson

It’s time to start treating yourself the way you treat othersAs children we’re taught to treat others the way we would like to be treated. But as adults, we often need to turn that old maxim around. We’re good at showing compassion to other people–but many of us have trouble showing that same compassion to ourselves. We say things to ourselves we would never say to a friend. And all this negative self-talk can have a devastating effect on our lives and relationships.

Licensed marriage and family therapist Kim Fredrickson wants you to stop beating yourself up. Grounding her advice in Scripture, she offers practical steps, specific exercises, and compassionate words to say in order to build a loving relationship with yourself. Through inspiring stories of transformation, she’ll help you learn to show yourself the kind of grace and understanding you offer to others–and to change your relationships, your outlook on life, and your view of yourself in the process.

About The Author

Kim Fredrickson has been a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified Christian life coach for more than twenty-five years. An adjunct professor, speaker, and author, she loves helping people become equipped spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually with practical skills to live more effective and fulfilling lives. Her website offers visitors helpful articles, encouraging recordings, and additional resources. She has been married to her husband, Dave, for thirty-seven years and they have two grown children. Fredrickson lives in California. Learn more at

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My Thoughts

Many of us struggle with negative self-talk. We lack self-compassion – how to interact kindly with ourselves – and say things to ourselves we would never say to a friend. Self-compassion is essential for both handling and recovering from life’s difficulties, without it we become vulnerable to harmful messages from our inner critics. All this negativity can have a devastating effect on our lives.
In Give Yourself a Break, Kim Fedrickson uses a faith perspective to provide some understanding of why self-compassion is so hard to extend to ourselves, and shows us how to practice self-compassion so we can relate to ourselves in a healthy and gracious way.

I found this book to be well written, gentle in its text, and completely Biblical in its content.  Too often, Christians feel like that if they are not running themselves ragged, harboring guilt as a sign of humility, and worn out physically, they are not doing their best for God, completely false doctrine. 

The areas of study include:

  • why it is so difficult to be compassionate with ourselves
  • treating yourself with kindness
  • how self-compassion helps all other relationships
  • how to be compassionate with emotions
  • tools to build a compassionate relationship
  • self-soothing techniques
  • Scripture support
  • how to use this material in a group setting
  • how to recover when we’ve messed up

God wants us to live in victory, in His forgiveness, in His strength.  This book is an excellent reminder.  I believe this book would be a wonderful text to use in a home study, small group, or Sunday School classes.

I receives this book from Revell in exchange for my honest review.